The #1 Thing You Need to Move Through Your Blocks to Build Your Holistic Business

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“The more important a call or action is to our soul’s evolution, the more Resistance we will feel toward pursuing it.” ~Steven Pressfield

I am talking to a Holistic Practitioner on the phone and she says to me “Shelley I have a BIG Mission for my work, I can see it in my mind ~ it’s beautiful, but instead I am playing small.  I don’t have a full practice of Ideal Clients like you talk about.  I’m working too hard; I know I am not getting paid enough.   I am hiding out; I know it.  But I don’t know what to do, I am so stuck!”

One of the most painful things we can struggle with is having a BIG Mission and knowing in our heart that we aren’t bringing that beautiful Mission into form, into manifestation in our life and in our Holistic Business.  This is what is causing her so much pain and frustration.

Here is what I have learned over the years of Coaching high level Visionary Therapists, Healers and Coaches to bring their Mission into full form.  You cannot do it alone.  Here is why.  At the same time you have this beautiful Vision for your Holistic Business you have another part of you, a part I call the Conditioned Self, that is resisting any progress you attempt to make towards your Vision. This resistance can come in many forms.

Here are some examples of what this Resistance can look like in your life:

  • You find yourself wasting time and not making any concrete steps to move your business forward
  • You focus on supporting someone else’s dream
  • You get sick
  • You Market your Services to your non-Ideal clients and get frustrated when they don’t say yes
  • You undercharge for your services and stay in struggles around money
  • You don’t invest in learning about Marketing and instead do the same unproductive things over and over again, getting the same frustrating results
  • You jump from free Tele-Class to Tele-Class picking up nuggets of information and implementing a little of it but not really gaining any real traction in your business
  • You spend too much time and energy at a job you hate so you are too exhausted to grow the holistic business you love
  • You tell yourself lies like “I’m not good enough,” “I don’t have what it takes,” “I can’t charge more,” “Someone else is already doing what I want to do,” “Maybe I am not meant to be doing my dream, I should just be happy with what I have already,” and “What if I try and fall flat on my face?”
  • Just when you are starting to make real progress, big obstacles start showing up: unexpected bills, clients start to cancel, a family member gets sick, you get injured, etc.

These are all forms of Resistance showing up to block you from moving forward.  This Resistance is real, it is big and if you aren’t ready to handle it, it will stop you in your tracks so fast and cause you to retreat.  The bigger your Mission, the bigger your Resistance will be.

So the good news here is that you can stop beating yourself up for being stuck because now you can understand that you have had a formidable part of you, your Conditioned Self, blocking your progress.  How do you address this?  The key thing is that you cannot address this on your own.  In a Livestream Training I gave recently I made the comment “It takes a village to handle your Conditioned Self and your Resistance to make real progress in your Holistic Business.”

Over the years I have realized that to manifest my big Vision and support my clients to do the same, the key element was getting a TON of support.  And you need support from people and a group that truly understand the dynamics of the Conditioned Self.   Your Conditioned Self can be very subtle and powerful in taking you out of the game at the moments when it is most important to stay in the game and stay the course.

You need a Coach, a Mentor and also a group of people surrounding you and supporting you to move forward.  You need loving support to stay the course when you are being bombarded by the fears of your Conditioned Self.  You need people around you who can lovingly point out to you when you are stuck in a pattern of Resistance of your Conditioned Self.

I would love to hear how your Resistance manifests as you move forward in growing your Holistic Business.


4 Responses to The #1 Thing You Need to Move Through Your Blocks to Build Your Holistic Business
  1. Christine
    October 24, 2014 | 5:20 pm

    Great article, Shelley and filled with so much wisdom!

  2. Shirley
    September 13, 2017 | 9:24 pm

    Wow! I really know about this conditioned self resistance! I am taking some big steps right now and this article helps me stay the course..Thanks, Shelley

  3. Josee
    September 14, 2017 | 9:32 am

    So much truth to what you say here Shelley. Love the examples you provided on how resistance can manifest in your life. I saw myself there in a few of them. Having the right support group is definitely a must. Thanks for sharing your brilliance with the world.

  4. Lynn Schuster
    September 15, 2017 | 10:54 am

    Thank you Shelley! I can read this post over and over because for me, resistance can pop up anywhere, when I least expect it. Without your support and the people in the GAHP I would not have had the courage to launch my business! I have learned, and continue to learn more and more about myself, I am grateful for all that you do!

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